I hope you have a gr8 day :).
It'sÂ hard to know what to do when irrational jealousy strikes. It doesn't make sense. Since a cutesy name has been created for this way of living, I realized that it must be becoming more common. What advice would you give? Eventually there won't be any waves left to ride. 1. But resentment sounds so negative and no one said that being jealous or resentful of your spouse is a bad thing. I was scared of my thoughts, I didn't want to accept myself for who I am, & I thought I truly needed alcohol to function. I now knew what I didn't know before, which was that alcohol wasn't making my life easier, or curing my anxiety, or making me more fun to be around. I know how you feel - the experience of watching other people enjoy "good" drinks and catch that nice buzz. ( Log Out / Insecure men often try to manipulate their partner by acting as if they are ignoring you. I gave into the impulse a few weeks later, & that started a four month binge, which resulted in me getting fired for being drunk at work, & increased my anxiety levels ten-fold.
He really enjoys it, so I don’t want him to have to abstain around me - that would make me feel weak and guilty. I remember my early days of sobriety and the anxiety that use to trigger my drinking being a big time culprit of wanting to drink. Jealous of people who drink. When I’m not drinking, it is also clear to me when his personality shifts when he is drinking. if i could stop at just a few i probably would. Write in a journal your thoughts, & pin point the negative consequences of what a relapse would enfold. However, it is not always true. That stumps them, and they start saying, arre u felt hurt, i didn’t mean so.
I'm not jealous of the people drinking. But I think if I understand that I will not be nearly as happy as I think I will be if I drink that will help me avoid it. I'm never jealous while sober, but after a few drinks, I can sometimes start feeling that pang of anxiety over a text [from a girl]. Its been so tempting. It sucks big time seeing friends & loved ones all drinking & seemingly enjoying it. That is inspiring. Being around him also makes me think - “you can just have a few... doesn’t that look nice?”. We welcome anyone who wishes to join in by asking for advice, sharing our experiences and stories, or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit or cut down. When does the pang of resentment toward those around me who drink stop? Press J to jump to the feed.
I read here recently that even if we were drinking we'd still be obsessing about it.
He has about 1-2 beers a day most days but not all days. Well, I have been a so-called DINK family for long.
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My husband is a regular drinker. Couples who are married, both work, and choose to remain child-free. I understand what you're going through. When does the pang of resentment toward those around me who drink stop? Do you tell your partner how you're feeling? And i hate it when people start feeling jealous of our double income and supposedly no-responsibilities and say it so on our face. My motivation for the post was knowing that these feelings were triggering me big time, so hearing how they led to relapse for you gives me resolve to keep coming back for help. To avoid that, I'd have to keep drinking until going to bed.
Last night we went out for dinner and I really wanted to drink and it was aggravating watching him enjoy two beers. As in having a double income but with no-kids. but i always feel much better when i remember how my head feels the morning after, or the embarrassment of checking my phone, or ... etc. Now, my life is getting back on track and I feel amazingly successful, which also use to be a trigger for me to drink so now I am going back through all those desires and cravings again. If you are open to it, would you share with me how that is going for you? The buzz and the happiness he feels is obvious. I will be anxious either way, might as well be sober for it. I try to remember how it feels to come down from that buzz, though. Well, Standard. I was a fucking slave. This is not a trait of zodiac signs. He really enjoys it, so I don’t want him to have to abstain around me - that would make me feel weak and guilty. Otherwise jealousy can just be a motivator to work harder, make more money and get on equal ground with your spouse. I like what you're saying here. I haven’t at all in my sobriety out of fear that it would either lower my inhibitions and I would drink when stoned or I would start abusing it like I did alcohol. I haven't had cravings since I started (due to marijuana usage), so I kinda see things clearly without the fog of cravings. It feels shitty sometimes being the 'odd one out'. Thanks for your reply. What the fcuk. It’s only negative if you let the feelings take over the love in your relationship. Thank you. This is something that I am currently struggling with. As in having a double income but with no-kids. Is it truly not caring what others are doing / drinking around you and just concentrating on oneself? Somehow that really struck me. Please post only when sober; you're welcome to read in the meanwhile. what happens when you "play the tape forward"? DINKS. but can you have just a few? Thanks. I had heard the word once before but had to be reminded what it meant. Thanks for this. where does that lead? That relapse was what made me really, really WANT to stop for good. i'm guessing you already know how it plays out, and that's why you're on day 71 ;). ( Log Out /
Many of you may think that when a man gets jealous, he will try to charm you or sweet talk. I was anxious if I wasn't drinking, & I would be anxious while drunk, too! And i hate it when people start feeling jealous of our double income and supposedly no-responsibilities and say it so on our face. This sign he is jealous but hiding it is often shown through communication. (That I cannot have just two and not obsess over where that next drink will come from. )
Why would I drink? Or at least making them smaller. I'm dealing with this jealousy myself. Even after nearly dieing due to alcoholism several times I still get jealous. I think part of the anger/ resentment actually does stem from my progressively realizing that I am not the same kind of drinker as my husband. Training Concepts : Waterbowl Colouring [Worthy Read], Emotionally competent airhostess by Daniel Goleman. 16 Subtle Signs He Is Jealous But Hiding It. but here i am. Also- congrats on so many days! is an acronym for Dual Income No Kids.
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